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In our day-to-day work life, one of the debilitati

In our day-to-day work life, one of the debilitating things is when people resist our logical and reasonable requests – for time, data, response, attention.

It can feel puzzling, confusing and of course frustrating!

What do you do?

Peter Block describes in his body of work on Resistance that there are principally two underlying concerns or needs that give rise to expressions of Resistance;

𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐧𝐞𝐞𝐝 𝐭𝐨 𝐛𝐞 𝐢𝐧 𝐜𝐨𝐧𝐭𝐫𝐨𝐥 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐚𝐯𝐨𝐢𝐝𝐚𝐧𝐜𝐞 𝐨𝐟 𝐯𝐮𝐥𝐧𝐞𝐫𝐚𝐛𝐢𝐥𝐢𝐭𝐲.

Both serve an essential purpose, they help keep us safe, but when these needs are not met, we go into overdrive, and our behaviour becomes dysfunctional and unhelpful.

So Resistance can be defined as ““𝘢 𝘯𝘢𝘵𝘶𝘳𝘢𝘭 𝘩𝘶𝘮𝘢𝘯 𝘳𝘦𝘢𝘤𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯 𝘵𝘰 𝘤𝘩𝘢𝘯𝘨𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘴𝘪𝘵𝘶𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯𝘴, 𝘸𝘩𝘪𝘤𝘩 𝘯𝘦𝘦𝘥𝘴 𝘵𝘰 𝘉𝘌 𝘦𝘹𝘱𝘳𝘦𝘴𝘴𝘦𝘥 𝘣𝘦𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘦 𝘯𝘦𝘸 𝘪𝘥𝘦𝘢𝘴 𝘰𝘳 𝘤𝘩𝘢𝘯𝘨𝘦 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘦𝘮𝘣𝘳𝘢𝘤𝘦𝘥”.”.

When your internal or external stakeholders resist your perfectly reasonable requests, please know the guise of the trigger for Resistance.

Some common ones are ▶️

👉🏾 Lack of information or understanding of the need for or implications of change.
👉🏾 A vested interest in things staying the same.
👉🏾 A perceived sense of threat from the shift (authority, legislation, revenue)
👉🏾 Concerns or anxieties about the future.
👉🏾 Inability to see another way to ‘solve the problem’.
👉🏾  Fears (real or imagined) of failure or rejection.
👉🏾  Not feeling listened to.
👉🏾  Feeling dismissed, attacked, criticized, judged and shamed.

💡 When you understand the underlying trigger for the Resistance, you can respond appropriately rather than getting into overdrive and displaying dysfunctional behaviour.

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Most nights are like this Mamma can you help me s

Most nights are like this

Mamma can you help me sleep tonight?

”Come on Neer, you are 11. You should be falling asleep on your own”

Please Mamma, you promised two nights in the week you would help me

Me grumbling and lying down beside him
In my mind missing my Netflix and my bedtime books

Me loudly, ok can we switch off the lights now?

Neer negotiates with the deftest of expressions for 5 minutes extra reading time

Finally the lights are off after I remind him it’s getting past his bed time

Then unfurls the questions and chatter… what happened in school, views on characters, questions about his lunchbox the next day

Finally after a stern, go to sleep now, there is silence

And movement

His legs keep moving, shifting to find the most comfortable position to snuggle

Sometimes he plays with my hair

Almost like sleeping is the last thing on his mind

And then, in a moment, his body is still

His fingers no longer tightly fisted

I can tickle him or talk to him but he won’t budge, won’t realize a thing

I remind myself this is greater than any Netflix

Cherishing the joys of motherhood

There comes a beautiful inflection point where you

There comes a beautiful inflection point where you have to stop trying to escape yourself or improve yourself and just allow yourself to be

The common fallacy of self improvement is that you need to be better, unleash your millionaire mindset, get a beach body, upgrade your accommodation, car and mindset.

It is self loathing in disguise.

The gift is recognizing the empowerment in the present moment.

The present is not a mess we need to escape, there is jewel in recognizing the miraculous treasure trove the mess is.

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"I Hate Networking" This was the statement I hear

"I Hate Networking"

This was the statement I heard implicitly and explicitly from participants at a two day Women`s Leadership Session on Networking I facilitated.

Executives say that networking makes them feel uncomfortable and phony— even dirty.

Although some people have a natural passion for it—namely, the extroverts who love and thrive on social interaction— many understandably see it as self-serving, exploitative, and inauthentic.

But in today’s world, networking is a necessity. A mountain of research shows that professional networks lead to more job and business opportunities, broader and deeper knowledge, improved capacity to innovate, faster advancement, and greater status and authority. Building and nurturing professional relationships also improves the quality of work and increases job satisfaction.

Fortunately, an aversion to networking can be overcome. Here are some strategies to help you.

👉🏾𝐑𝐞𝐰𝐫𝐢𝐭𝐞 𝐘𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐍𝐞𝐭𝐰𝐨𝐫𝐤𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐍𝐚𝐫𝐫𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐯𝐞
What are the stories you are telling yourself about networking?

👉🏾𝐅𝐢𝐧𝐝 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐚𝐮𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐢𝐜 𝐜𝐮𝐫𝐢𝐨𝐬𝐢𝐭𝐲
Rather than being awkward over what to speak, refocus your attention on genuine curiosity

👉🏾𝐌𝐚𝐩 𝐘𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐍𝐞𝐭𝐰𝐨𝐫𝐤
Having a clear picture of your current network and seeing the diversity, interconnection, strength of relationship and access to power and influence is the best starting point

Are you sufficiently leveraging your network to accelerate your career?

If your answer is no, you are losing a huge opportunity.

DM today to find out more how you can be better at networking and collaborating

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